The Key to Good Luck Is an Open Mind


The luckiest people may have a specific set of skills that bring chance opportunities their way.

Luck can seem synonymous with randomness. To call someone lucky is usually to deny the relevance of their hard work or talent. As Richard Wiseman, the Professor of Public Understanding of Psychology at the University of Hertfordshire, in the United Kingdom, puts it, lucky people “appear to have an uncanny ability to be in the right place at the right time and enjoy more than their fair share of lucky breaks.”

What do these people have that the rest of us don’t? It turns out “ability” is the key word here. Beyond their level of privilege or the circumstances they were born into, the luckiest people may have a specific set of skills that bring chance opportunities their way. Somehow, they’ve learned ways to turn life’s odds in their favor.

Demystifying this luck skillset has been a personal project of Christine Carter, a sociologist and senior fellow at the Greater Good Science Center, at the University of California, Berkeley. A few years ago, she was putting together an online course for families on raising happier kids. She translates research findings on qualities such as gratitude, mindfulness, and happiness into quantifiable, teachable skills. Amidst her work, she stumbled upon a funny little concept that seemed to be entangled with all these things—luck. “On the academic side of things, I’ve always been sort of skeptical of any concept related to luck,” says Carter. “Because as a sociologist, it’s like, Oh, so all those children in Darfur are just not lucky? We know that there are other things there.”

“His research is hilarious.”

Then Carter stumbled on Wiseman’s luck research (one of his books is The Luck Factor, published in 2004). Wiseman started out as a magician and made his career researching the more unusual niches of psychology (a 2002 study, published in The Journal of Parapsychology, is titled, “An Investigation into the Alleged Haunting of Hampton Court Palace: Psychological Variables and Magnetic Fields”). By the 1990s, he had taken on an unconventional project—running experiments on self-proclaimed lucky and unlucky people and attempting to quantify their differences. “His research is hilarious,” says Carter. “He takes people who self-define as lucky and people who don’t say they’re lucky, and then he puts a $20 bill in the street and the lucky people notice them and pick them up. And unlucky people don’t.”

The experimental design may seem a little silly, a superficial way to distinguish the fortunate from the unfortunate. Yet this was the kind of result that Wiseman found in several related experiments over the course of about 10 years, from about 1993 to 2003. In one such study, Wiseman provided a group of volunteers with a newspaper and instructed them to count the photographs inside. Written in large font on half of the second page was this message: “Stop counting—there are 43 photographs in this newspaper.” A similar insert placed halfway through the paper read, “Stop counting, tell the experimenter you have seen this and win $250.” Overall, the self-identified unlucky participants were left counting. It suggested that luck could have something to do with spotting opportunities, even when they were unexpected.

Wiseman didn’t stop there. He turned these findings into a “luck school” where people could learn luck-inducing techniques based on four main principles of luck: maximizing chance opportunities, listening to your intuition, expecting good fortune, and turning bad luck to good. The strategies included using meditation to enhance intuition, relaxation, visualizing good fortune, and talking to at least one new person every week. A month later, he followed up with participants. Eighty percent said they were happier, luckier people.

“I thought if Wiseman can train people to be lucky, you can certainly teach those skills to our kids, and they have other really good side effects too,” says Carter, like better social skills and a stronger sense of gratitude. She came up with a few basic strategies for parents to teach their kids, including being open to new experiences, learning to relax, maintaining social connections, and (yes) talking to strangers. All of these techniques had one theme in common—being more open to your environment both physically and emotionally.

“If you’re anxious that you won’t find a parking place, then literally your vision narrows. You lose your peripheral vision.”

It makes sense. The more observant you are of your surroundings, the more likely you are to capture a valuable resource or avoid tragedy. Lucky people don’t magically attract new opportunities and good fortune. They stroll along with their eyes wide open, fully present in the moment (a problem for people glued to phone screens). This also means that anything that affects our physical or emotional ability to take in our environment also affects our so-called “luckiness”—anxiety, for one. Anxiety physically and emotionally closes us off to chance opportunities.

“If you’re anxious that you won’t find a parking place, then literally your vision narrows,” says Carter. “You lose your peripheral vision the more anxious you are because your flight-or-fight mechanism creates binocular vision.” Anxious people bias their attention to potential threats, and are predictably less likely to converse with strangers. “We teach our kids not to talk to strangers and we teach them to fear other people, and that shuts them down to the opportunities that people might bring, but also creates anxiety,” says Carter.

Proponents of “stranger danger” might balk, but the idea is relatively straightforward: reduce kids’ fear and anxiety toward meeting new people, and consequently open them up to the advantageous connections that people can bring.

Carter discovered that simply opening up parents’ minds this way to the idea that luck could be learned made a big difference. Carter herself admits she comes from a long line of anxious women, and learning these luck skills wasn’t easy. But once you do, she says, you can begin to see the good in unlucky situations, which can improve your response to misfortune.

In the Huffington Post, Carter wrote, “My kids and I love to read Jon Muth’s book Zen Shorts, which includes an ancient parable about a farmer’s son who breaks his leg. When his neighbors say, ‘What bad luck!’ the farmer says only ‘Maybe.’ Turns out the broken leg saves his son from going to war….”

10 Things You Must Do Before You Turn 30

1) Be alone for at least one year.

Living alone is very rewarding, first of all, you learn how to live a Self-Dependent life.
Yes, life alone teaches lessons that are impossible to learn in a seminary, the most important of which is the ability to self-fulfill their basic Needs, which many people do not even learn until they are old and of all ages. Support and spend loads on others, let mother and sisters work before marriage, beggars and old age babies after marriage!
Making small dishes yourself, washing your own clothes, taking care of yourself, are common habits, but the role of these habits and scales is most important in developing self-esteem, once you learn them, in order to be free from the Dependency of others.
Although the ‘service’ of elders and elders is considered a blessing to us, remember that elders or elders who do not depend on others less or less at all (or juniors) are more happy to work and support them. Feel, rather than those who order the little ones for every small task, self-reliance enhances your respect and position in the surroundings and people.

2) Start a small business.

Before you reach the age of thirty, start a small business where you must learn the skills of customer dealing, public dealing, product sales, and people-to-consumer, investing and managing money. Open a small teaching academy, shop online, become an agent or become an agent, even if you are capable of setting up a small stall, this experience will benefit you greatly, but one of the cash benefits is that you will discover yourself whether you want a job for your taste. Doing more business or business, as well as having the advantage of having unemployment in your life, you will not be disappointed with this small business experience in these difficult days. And will respectfully spend time until the next job.

3) Lessons you will learn from failure


Try new projects and taste life’s failures and successes, you will be amazed that failure will teach you something that cannot teach you success! Learn Lessons From Failure These are the lessons you will find in the 70s, 60s, 50s, 40s.

4) Invest in habits.

Our daily habits play the most important role in shaping our future, these are the habits that can drown the fringe of life and even the fleet, so investing in habits is the most successful investment, no mission in our life, no Set vision and set small targets on a daily basis. Good habits, such as “prayer restriction, meditation, study habits, exercise, etc. are habits that, if caught in life, are beneficial for all ages,
Similarly, try to end bad habits, such as “smoking, unnecessary staying up late at night, surfing on YouTube, social media and waste of time on all these habits.
How to develop good habits and how to get rid of bad habits is also a science, learn! That would be great!

5) Complete education.


Must have completed at least a Masters education or a professional education before the age of thirty, because after-30 life does not give you opportunities for education, or at least it becomes almost impossible to continue education, so try to complete your educational career by 24/25 and for some reason, it’s too late. If it is thirty years of age, complete it before, if it does not disappear now then only remorse will remain.

6) Love someone

Whether you want to go for a love marriage or an arranged one, it is the matter of your own choice. Though not every senior will advise you to love before marriage; the first reason is moral that in our religion it is unpleasant and the second reason is That love marriages often fail in our society.
Anyway do not delay marriage, the matter of love is very interesting and I am in great favor of love whether you do it before or after marriage (without crossing the boundaries of morality), love is an emotion that teaches you to focus and make sacrifices; it is such an exciting and exciting experience that even when it fails, it is beneficial and successful. Well, you already know the benefits of being successful, but the experience of failure in love can put a human on the break, and if you have been trained on the right lines, this breakdown is useful in many ways, resulting in failure. Since self-esteem and self-interest are badly affected, you dedicate yourself to a greater purpose in order to regain it. Love is a big part of many people’s success!

7) Learn to love your work.


Many people will advise you to do the work you love, but it is less likely that people will have the opportunity to take up the work they love, why not to love the work you do? That’s the realism and the requirement of time!

8) Study.

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I have written before about the study and often give my juniors the same advice that you must study. It will broaden your horizons and make revolutionary changes in your thinking. It can be started from time to time and then you can continue according to an increase in your interest. People who write books, sometimes it takes them ten years to write a single book, and you can seize the knowledge for what that writer(author of the book) devoted ten years of his life. You can finish this book of three hundred and fifteen pages in fifteen days and get that knowledge in a few days!

9) Master one skill


Polishing and mastering a skill that you have the ability to serve, such as “Communication Skills, Computer Skills, Any Language, etc” will benefit you all throughout your life!

10) SWOT Analysis

Keep doing your SWOT analysis, please search Google for details on what SWOT Analysis is.
In particular “
S = Strengths
W = Weaknesses
O = Opportunities
T = Threats
Learn your Strengths and learn how to overcome your Weaknesses with their help Opportunities Available To You, Find Them And Overcome Threats. These ten tasks should be done in the 20s but if you are over 30, then nothing to worry about can be done later, but the same thing can happen.